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        First Dates: Do and Don't

        14/10/2015

        Tips for a great first date

        Good topics to start conversation include social media trending, interests, hobbies, movies and music. Skip topics like religion, politics and family background.

         

        Ask good questions and show that you're interested in learning the answers. This is the surest way to score a great second date.

         

        Share the limelight. Listen attentively, maintain good eye contact, show interest in what he/she says.

         

        If you enjoyed your time with your first date and would like to see him/her again, call/sms him/her and tell him/her so. Don’t wait too long (and definitely don’t play hard to get).

         

        It is good that ladies to initiate about sharing the cost of the first date, for example, if he pays for the meals, you can pay for the movies. This indicates independence and fairness. Plus, you would not feel obligated for a second date if you do want to.

         

        Both men and women should avoid

        Being too ‘aggressive’ like asking how he/she finds her/him at the first date and pressuring for a second date. This puts undue pressure on both of you and is unlikely to elicit an honest response.

         

        Being rude to the restaurant staff. This is the universal test. How you treat the server is an indicator of how you treat others, including the people with whom you're in close relationships. Want to score points? Be authentically respectful of your server on the first date.

         

        Being a bad listener or forgetting to listen. It's the first time you're sitting down with this person and you want it to go well. You may start filling in awkward silences with a bunch of babble or you may want to be so entertaining that you end up hogging the spotlight. Do not focus on yourself during the evening. Listen to the replies too and don’t just look for an opening to start discussing yourself.

         

        Do not ever talk about dates you have had with other people or your ex-steady.

         

        Do not talk about your job for more than a few minutes – while our own work is a fascinating subject for us, it is seldom fascinating for someone else. Be sure to compliment your date – but don’t go overboard

         

        Men to avoid

        Arriving late has a big negative impact on the first impression.Ladies expect men to be punctual 100% of the time. Even better, be 5 to 10 minutes early.

         

        Cleanliness is important. Men should try to arrive cool, clean and composed and not appear rushed and flustered.

         

        Dressing inappropriately. Men, are you wearing long sleeve collar shirt on a date where you're supposed to be doing outside activities? Did you ask the lady out to a nice dinner, but put no effort into what you're wearing, so the other person was all dressed up and you looked like you just finished doing outdoor sports?

         

        Ladies to avoid

        Asking personal questions like his income level and about his past relationships.

        Sharing too much information about herself on the first date. Conversing should be a two-way traffic.

        Leave the money talk off on a first date. Even if the ladies mean it as harmless chit chat, the guys would normally become defensive over it.