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        Online Dating Tips

        14/12/2015

        1. Your photos is everything
        This is the big one, because depressing though it may be, your smiling face is the first thing on which people will judge you. Relationship psychologist Honey Langcaster-James says: “Look straight into the camera and smile showing your teeth – this says open, friendly, healthy and confidence.” A recent study of the most popular profiles on dating sites showed 88 per cent are making eye contact with the camera in their profile picture.

        2. Ask a friend to read your profile
        It might feel a little awkward, but dating expert Peter Spalton says it’s a great idea to ask a friend to cast a fresh eye over what you’ve written – and not just to check your spelling. “We live in a soundbite society so the first 30 words of your profile really count,” says Peter. “Try to avoid clichés in your profile because, let’s face it, everyone wants someone who's loyal and we all like walking on the beach at sunset. Ask your friend to keep an eye out for overused phrases.”

        3. Don't be Google-able
        Just like meeting a stranger in real life, you have to stay safe when you’re online. Before giving away information such as job titles or personal details, think first about how those could be used to track you online.

        4. Yes, message first
        A lot of the outdated dating rules don’t apply, and sending the first message online is actively encouraged if you want to get your profile looked at. Peter Spalton says being proactive is key. “Set aside an amount of time every day and write a handful of tailored introductory messages to new people,” he says.

        5. Use it on Sunday
        Sunday is the best time to get online. Research shows that peak time for users on Tinder, OkCupid and Match are all on a Sunday afternoon, especially after 5pm. Most experts recommend dedicating at least 30 minutes every evening to the process. “Set yourself a limit, but keep at it, it’ll be worth the effort,” says Peter.

        6. Keep your options open
        It might feel strange, but, as Honey says, don’t feel that you have to speak to one person at a time. “This is online dating, so most people will be talking to a few people at once. Don’t take that personally, just be honest about it. Meeting to see if there is any chemistry should not be too big a deal. You're not monogamous just because you've been emailing each other for a couple of weeks.”

        7. Try not to get disheartened
        Along the way, you’ll almost certainly meet some duds. You can have matching profiles, get on like a house on fire over email, and then have zero chemistry in real life. But Honey says it’s important to stick with it.